| Friday, January 05, 2007 |
| Needy |
I've realised that I get to know people, then pull away from them again. Many times I become really close with someone, then find myself pulling back, putting distance between us. And I've wondered why it is that I do this.
It came to me last night, as I was wondering why I was pulling back from someone again. And I realise it's other's neediness. I can't seem to deal with it. I don't feel equipped to handle their unconscious demands, and pull back so that I don't have to be in the position where I am unable to respond to their requests for help, emotionally or spiritually.
Which is ironic considering the amount of need I have and place on others. Have you noticed that it's often the same failing or weakness that we have that we can't deal with in others?
I guess this is why I have such a problem with one of my housemates at the moment - he's in the process of splitting up with his wife and is very lonely, very needy. And his neediness really puts me off to the extent that I actually skulk around the house trying to avoid him! And that's not healthy and is causing me great stress. That and the fact that his kids are around 2 or 3 times a week and they are SO noisy. I didn't realised 9-year-olds still screeched and stamped around the house. I thought they grew out of that.
But if I can't deal with others when they project their needs onto me, God can. And I need to turn to God to help me deal with my reaction. And pray to God to meet their needs. |
posted by Calia77 @ 8:05 am  |
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With regards to the kids- they may be more screechy and stampy because of the stress they are under of mum and dad splitting up. I'm not great with neediness either.
I see you got your ticker working!
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With regards to the kids- they may be more screechy and stampy because of the stress they are under of mum and dad splitting up. I'm not great with neediness either.
I see you got your ticker working!